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Questions to ask your Tinder match

Need to get the conversation started on a dating app? Use these suggestions for questions to ask and you'll never be lost for words on dating apps again.
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If you've been reading our advice, you know that one of the best ways to get a Tinder conversation started is to ask a question.

But you can't ask your Tinder match just any question.

So what questions should you ask on Tinder? You need to choose a question that will start the right kind of conversation — one that allows you both to share information about yourselves, and also starts the kind of conversation that can last for hours or days of texting.

Remember that any question you ask can be turned around and asked of you, so be sure you've got your own answer ready.

Read on to find out what makes a good question, along with ideas of questions to ask.

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  1. What makes great conversation starter questions?
  2. Starter questions to ask
  3. Top questions to ask for a Tinder match
  4. Funny questions
  5. Naughty questions
  6. Playful questions
  7. Exciting questions
  8. Questions to start a serious relationship
  9. Heart-warming questions
what makes great conversation starter questions

What makes great conversation starter questions?

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You need to ask something personal enough to actually learn about the other person, without getting so deep that you make things weird. Tread lightly when asking about their last relationship, or other questions that might get emotional. Ditto for questions about their family or their past — depending on their background.

Pop culture and other questions relating to the media are usually safer territory, and still give you plenty of opportunities to learn what they're all about. From their zodiac sign to their first job, there are lots of safe(er) topics you can cover to figure out whether you're a good fit.

The following sections are full of example questions that can be a fun way to figure out what you're Tinder match is all about.

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starter questions to ask

Starter questions to ask

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Looking for Tinder questions to break the ice? Try some of these suggestions.

"If you had to describe yourself in one word, what would it be?"

"What's the worst Tinder date you've ever been on?"

"What's your biggest pet peeve?"

"Make your case: dog person or cat person?"

"What's your idea of a perfect day?"

"If money wasn't an issue, what would be your dream job?"

"What's the first thing people assume when they meet you?"

top questions to ask for a tinder match

Top questions to ask for a Tinder match

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#1: What's the best present you've ever received?

This is a great question to ask your Tinder date to figure out what they're into. And if your date turns into a serious relationship, you'll have their answer to the best present question in your back pocket when it's time to come up with a romantic or impressive idea yourself.

#2: What's your most treasured memory?

If you're looking for a heartwarming Tinder question to ask your match, this one is for you. Having someone think about their treasured memories is a great way to get into emotional territory, without asking a question that can seem too personal or invasive.

#3: What are the top three items on your bucket list?

Do they want to go live on a farm? Do they want to go skydiving? If you're thinking about spending a lot more time with this person, these are the kind of Tinder questions you want to ask your match to find out if you've got the same idea of fun. Because if bucket list items are too different, you might not be a great fit.

#4: What's your favorite sport?

Not everyone is going to be sporty, but for the athletically minded this is one of the best questions to ask on Tinder. Once you get into it, you can spend a whole conversation talking about sports — from favorite teams to details about players.

#5: What advice would you give the younger version of yourself?

Want to get someone's life story on a dating app? This is the question to ask. While it doesn't sound overly personal at first, the person's answer will give you a lot of information about who they are and what's important to them.

#6: What would you do with unlimited money?

Who hasn't dreamed about winning the lottery? Will the person tell you about the elaborate trip they have planned, or will they explain their plan to end world hunger? Their answer will be telling.

#7: What's the worst movie you've ever seen?

Sure, you could ask about their top five favorite movies, but everyone does that. So why not shake things up a little by asking your date about the worst? This is likely to lead to a much more interesting conversation, and you'll learn more interesting things about the other person, too.

#8: What's your greatest accomplishment?

This question can be a lot of pressure, especially for younger folks. Maybe you haven't gotten to your life's greatest accomplishment yet. But this is a great question to ask if you want to find out what another person values. Do they care about work? Family? Something else? This is the question to ask if you want to find out.

#9: What's your favorite book?

Not everyone will be into sports or even movies. Here's the question to ask your bookish date. Even if you aren't familiar with their answer, their description of the book will give you an idea of why they like it.

#10: What's a fun fact about you?

This kind of open-ended Tinder question is a great opportunity for someone to give you information about themselves that might not otherwise come up in conversation. And when you're giving your own answer, it's also your chance to disclose something you want your date to know.

#11: Who's your dream dinner guest?

Living or dead, someone's dinner guest choice will give you a lot of information about their preferences and can open the door to a much longer conversation. Are they the kind of person who wants to hang out with a philosopher or a reality tv star? (No judgment!)

#12: What one word would your friends use to describe you?

Bringing someone's friends into the question gives them permission to say things they might not otherwise bring up. From a fact that sounds like bragging to something that might be considered a weakness, the answer to this question will be telling.

#13: What's the weirdest thing about you?

Here's a fun way to figure out details that might not be the first thing someone would usually share. If you're feeling brave, you can even let them guess what your answer would be to the same question. These kinds of funny questions are a great way to get information when you don't want the conversation to get too serious.

#14: What's your idea of a perfect day?

Looking for date ideas? Take notes on their answer to their perfect day. Then when you propose an outing that involves their favorite things they'll be impressed that you were paying attention and managed to plan the perfect date.

#15: What was your worst date ever?

Similar to talking about movies, asking about worsts instead of bests can make for a more interesting conversation. These questions will also turn up information about their life you're unlikely to hear another way. Because everyone has a story about their worst Tinder date. And once you find out what the worst thing was that happened on a date, you can avoid doing it yourself!

#16: Do you prefer to sleep cuddling with another person or with personal space?

Looking for flirty questions to ask? Starting with a question about cuddling isn't too risque, but it does get the idea across that you're thinking about spending the night with your Tinder crush.

#17: What's your favorite sexual position?

Okay, this probably shouldn't be the first thing you ask — especially on a dating app where you could get reported. But if you're looking to get into naughty questions, this is a direct way to move the conversation in a more explicit direction.

#18: Tell me about your longest relationship.

If you want to know what does and doesn't work for someone in a relationship, this is the question to ask. Whether or not their longest was their last relationship or something from long ago. And if you find out someone has never maintained a relationship for more than a few weeks, that could be a red flag to keep in mind.

#19: Are you a night owl or an early bird?

Sure, this sounds basic at first, but the follow-up questions will keep the conversation going. If someone stays out late, what are they doing? If they get up early, is that a lifestyle you could join in on?

#20: What's your go-to party trick?

Here's another question that can lead to surprising answers. Maybe they come back from the bathroom dressed like a toilet paper mummy, or maybe they've mastered beer pong. This is the kind of online dating question that will help you figure out whether this is a person you're going to want to spend time with (or whether you'd want to limit things to one night.)

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Funny questions

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When you're getting to know each other, there's no reason not to get in a laugh or two at the same time. Try a funny question to get the conversation started.

"If you were going to be on a reality tv show, what would it be called?"

"Aside from toilet paper, what's the one item you'd bring to a desert island?"

"What's the worst movie to watch on a first date?"

"Describe your last Tinder date in five words or less."

naughty questions

Naughty questions

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"One night, no consequences, what do you do?"

"Do you have any hidden talents?"

"Top three activities for after dark, on a beach vacation?"

"What's the worst thing someone can do in bed?"

"What was your childhood celebrity crush, and do you stand by it?"

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Playful questions

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Here are some ways you can keep things light, but also keep the conversation flowing.

"Who was your first celebrity crush?"

"Aside from me, who is your dream dinner guest?"

"What's your best party trick?"

"What tv character would you replace in an alternate reality?"

"What's your favorite pizza — and why does it/doesn't it contain pineapple?"

exciting questions

Exciting questions

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Shake things up with an interesting question that lands like an action movie.

"If you had unlimited money, how would you save the world?"

"What fictional character are you sure you'd beat in a fight?"

"What's the first thing someone would discover as a night owl in this city?"

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questions to start a serious relationship

Questions to start a serious relationship

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Online dating isn't just about finding a quick and easy hookup. People also use dating apps to find relationships. Here are some Tinder question suggestions to use if serious is your goal.

"What qualities do you look for in romantic partners?"

"What was your longest relationship so far?"

"What's the number one item on your bucket list?"

heartwarming questions

Heart-warming questions

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When being funny or asking a flirty question isn't the right fit, try some of these deeper questions to ask in order to make a connection on a dating app.

"What's your favorite childhood memory?"

"What advice would you give the younger version of yourself?"

"What's been your greatest accomplishment so far?"

"What's the best present you ever received?"

"How did you meet your childhood best friend?"

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Not everyone has the gift of gab — that's why asking questions can be such a great tool! It's not about sharing your whole life story — it's about getting an easy conversation going with interesting questions. From there, you can transition to talking about date ideas and more. And as you can see from the questions to ask listed above, you can easily have a whole conversation based on one single question.

Online dating might feel challenging at times, but with a few tried-and-true tips like this, online dating can go from being stressful, to being a fun and easy way to meet people and find dates. So take our suggestions of questions to ask on Tinder and get out there to meet people!

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